We offer you 10 tips on how to become smarter. And at the same time to improve your health, psychological state, as well as to make your life more interesting
The key to success is often not only and not so much in professional qualities, as in the ability to withstand emotional stress in a stressful situation, attention and support of others, a positive attitude towards life. While IQ peaks at age 25-29, the emotional intelligence (EQ) starts to develop and reach its peak much later, at age 60. However, no one is preventing now to begin to learn the secrets of success of people with a high EQ.
- Strike a balance between work and rest
Those who work too intensely, without rest or attention to personal relationships, tend to burn out before they reach their maximum potential. On the other hand, those who don’t give their best at work don’t reach their average level. The first step in developing emotional intelligence is awareness: understanding how much time and effort needs to be devoted to work-and concentrating on the immediate tasks at hand-and yet determining the boundary beyond which work ends and personal time begins.
- Inspire your partner
Having the right partner for you is important to finding emotional balance. Your significant other should support, complement and inspire you – and they can if you do the same in return. Relationships in the pair of successful partners with high emotional intelligence are equal and complementary – and you have to start with yourself.
Multitasking doesn’t mean concentrating on everything at once. In order to achieve results, you must be sure to keep your priorities in mind.
- Approach things creatively
Boredom blocks creativity, which in turn blocks emotional development. Emotional creativity is most effective in a positive attitude toward others, a desire to help and understand others. Sincere and benevolent curiosity becomes the basis for lasting friendships.
- Listen First
Listening is emotional creativity along with discipline and is the first sign of a high EQ. Not everyone manages to listen with genuine interest, shifting attention from themselves to the thoughts and feelings of the other person, holding attention at least 75% of the time.
- Have a positive attitude toward change
An environment that is too predictable leads to boredom, which often deprives intelligence of additional stimuli and then leads to feelings of insecurity, which in turn blocks emotional intelligence. Change, especially positive change, can be a powerful catalyst.
- Don’t be a perfectionist
What cannot be satisfied is the thirst for perfection. And this leads to frustration and emotional distress. In addition, perfectionists often blame others for failing to live up to unattainable standards, and this inhibits the development of both emotional intelligence and relationships with others.
- Don’t jump to conclusions
Use your natural curiosity and listening skills to explore different approaches to a problem. Emotional intelligence is a great tool for developing complex solutions that require consideration of many factors and the interests of the different participants.
- Don’t dwell on mistakes
Everything from the past is gone, and if you spend time over and over again savoring your own or others’ mistakes, you’ll only get stress, anger, and disorientation. Accept your share of responsibility, draw conclusions, step over the past – and move forward.
- Redirect your anger
Negative emotions like anger and rage are not just feelings, but a powerful catalyst in the arsenal of the human psyche. However, this power needs to be controlled and directed toward desired actions – and away from people. Emotional intelligence helps people manage anger.