Today all parents know that today’s teenagers often lose their virginity not because of all-consuming passion and love for each other, but because of a simple interest and desire to join adult life through sex. It often happens that such an event as the loss of virginity is a pre-planned “action”. Many teenagers prefer to lose their virginity with a partner with whom a relationship is unlikely. After all, for most of them, their first sexual experience is associated with shame, unpleasant feelings, and disappointment. Therefore, continuing a relationship with their first partner is also undesirable.
All parents at one time or another face questions: how to talk to your child about it, to tell him what he needs to know, how to protect him from too early sexual intercourse and unwanted teenage pregnancies?
In search of answers to all these questions, parents often come to unreasonable conclusions, which we call parental delusions. As practice shows, among the many such misconceptions, the most popular have been four:
- Talking about sex will make a child promiscuous
Many parents believe that if they talk frankly with their child about sex, this conversation will encourage the child to move quickly from the theory of sex to practice and will cause early sex. In fact, this is not the case. Psychologists say that it is much more useful for a child to learn about the peculiarities of sexuality from parents, rather than from guys on the street who do not understand anything about it and love to tell various tall tales, sowing panic among teenagers.
- I am not a sexologist, so I don’t know what to tell him
Many parents don’t think they are qualified enough to talk to their kids about sex. Scientists say that teaching a child to understand sexual matters is no more difficult than teaching them anything else. To make it work, parents need to think back to themselves as teenagers and think about what they wanted to hear from Mom and Dad.
- Freedom spoils teens
There are some parents who believe that if you talk freely with your child about sexual issues, if you remove the unspoken taboo from this topic, it will spoil the teenager, he will become disobedient, promiscuous and think he is too old.Strangely enough, but practice proves that the opposite is true. For example, in America the problem of teenage sex is treated rather harshly, all American parents try to convince teenagers that early sex leads to disaster, that it is harmful and scary.
And what are the results of this approach? In the United States, more than 50 percent of girls and 60 percent of boys between the ages of 15 and 18 have had sex. But in Europe the approach to this problem is more liberal and considers the sexual life of teenagers absolutely normal. Studies show that teens in Europe are sexually active one to two years later than teens in the United States.