How to become cool
Everyone who’s seen a cool dude wants to be no less cool and cool. How do you have steel balls, be cool, look cool, maintain your image and challenge the world? You know a guy like that – he parks his motorcycle and fearlessly goes to a bar dressed in black leather. He unzips his jacket and puts his hands in tattoos on display. He puts the bill on the table, and the bartender immediately puts a glass in front of him. You glimpse this guy’s reckless look before he takes his eyes off. You’ve just seen a tough guy and you’d like to be that guy. 1. Be cool on the inside. 1.1 Watch.
Coolness is a state of mind. A cool guy will be cool even if he wears a pea skirt. Maybe he won’t look so scary, but he’ll still be cool. That’s because cool is a state of mind, just like nirvana, only a more daring state. Watch Clint Eastwood movies to have an idea of how to behave and be tough and scary. Accept the manners that you think will suit you and add something of yourself. Read about cool guys. For example: Sun Tzu and Genghis Khan (were Apollo cool during the war), Winston Churchill and Orson Welles (smoked more cigars than Fidel and Raoul combined) and Daniel Day Lewis and Jeff Bridges (a striking example of wardrobe). 1.2 Always be sure of yourself. That’s 95% success. Cool guys do something with total confidence and zero cowardice.
If you can do it, success is guaranteed. Walk with confidence, raise your head, straighten your shoulders (if it helps, pretend you have a long, fluttering cloak behind you) and take shorter, slower steps. Each of your steps should be weighty. Do not depend on the results. What does that mean? It means you don’t care about the results. Your confidence should make it easier for you to accept one woman’s rejection and another woman’s acceptance of exactly the same attitude. That’s awesome. 1.3 Be brave. Cool guys are brave by nature.
Most people associate fearlessness with coolness, whether it’s self-defense, fighting for someone or watching a dangerous situation with universal calm. Work to overcome your fears and feel free to defend what you believe in. Step out of your comfort zone and adapt to stressful situations. 1.4 Your actions should be louder than words. A real tough guy puts meaning into his actions. Tough guy doesn’t believe in talking. Anyone can say they are an expert in interplanetary travel, but not everyone has really done it. And which one’s the cool guy? 1.5 Destroy the obstacles. Nothing should stand in your way to be the cool guy. One of the most exciting and scary things to do is destroy obstacles in your way. It won’t happen overnight, but it will happen if you’re cool is a state of your soul.
For example, if you are shy, develop a new conversational material (cover different topics, add jokes) that will ensure your leadership throughout the conversation. A real tough guy will always find something to say, but he rarely talks. Find genius solutions to your problems. Here you are stuck between the hammer and the anvil. The cool guy will rip the hammer into small pieces with his energy, not explosives. That’s figurative, of course. Tough guy’s gonna get out of trouble the smartest and yet easiest way. You have to plan ahead. Tough guy has a great balance between spontaneous and forward planning. The cool guy sees a new opportunity but makes a plan for many steps forward. 1.6 Have your style. A real cool guy will wear whatever he wants, regardless of current trends. It is important to create your own style that will increase your confidence.
Appearances work wonders for your image and your perception of the world. Some people associate certain clothes with coolness – boots, leather, jeans, but you do not have to dress like this. You can also be cool in a Hawaiian shirt and sandals if you have that attitude. Try to create your own fancy style. Maybe you wear vests with pockets or just denim clothes, even for funerals. Whatever it is, be confident in your style. A fancy style can become legendary if it is implemented by a tough guy. 1.7 Wear sunglasses. Sunglasses are the epitome of coolness. No matter what you wear, if you are wearing sunglasses, your image will be much cooler. This is because the sunglasses protect you from close scrutiny and create a halo of self-confidence, even if it is not really so. 1.8 Be yourself. Do not lose your essence in the pursuit of coolness. Being cool doesn’t mean you get into trouble and impress other people. It means being who you are and fighting for that right. If you communicate with people who are driving you to something, and you agree, then you indulge in the desires of others. 2.
Maintain your image 2.1 Avoid cool things at all costs. You must have a good idea what that means. Refresh your knowledge: Cosmopolitan cocktails and any such drinks. Avoid them like plagues. Cross your legs when you sit. Manicure and pedicure. Who cares what the forums and neighbors say? Tough guys never do that kind of thing. Musicals. It’s not cool to watch men and women in tights sing something to each other on stage. 2.2 Be mysterious. Don’t tell people where you go unnecessarily. Be mysteriously late and don’t mention it. Don’t tell the story of your life. Let people make their own guesses. 2.3 Break the rules in small but meaningful ways. Tough guys are singled out from the grey mass by their individualistic nature. Tough guy is a lone wolf who is excluded from the crowd because he is too good, and who copes with even impossible situations. Tough guys only do what they want.
Ask yourself what made you act thoughtlessly and analyze why and how you do it. You may continue on your current course, but that’s entirely your choice. Do it more confidently than you have done before. 2.4 Do not look for a fight, but be prepared for it. A tough guy doesn’t pry, but he’s not afraid to stand up for himself and others when there’s no other way out or a serious challenge to respect. To be in good physical shape, try this: Boxing. It’s really cool. It’s a one-on-one fight. Boxing is exhausting, brave and grotesque and is perfect for a beginner cool guy. It’s a fight. Wrestlers don’t get the respect they deserve. Like boxers, they fight with their muscles and minds, sharpen their bodies until they become effective machines of ruthless force. Rugby. It’s a really rough, tough game. Players constantly break noses and fingers, but continue to move forward as if nothing had happened.
2.5 Behave yourself. Do not spoil the mood of others and do not alienate yourself. This is the difference between a tough guy and an asshole. People respect the former and despise the latter. The most respected cool guy is a guy with a tough image, but understanding and kind. Think of Han Solo, the scoundrel who ended up fighting the rebels. Or James Bond – cool, graceful and fearless, always ready to fight for the good of Britain. Big and small good deeds will make you the cool guy that people will follow. Shroud your good deeds in mystery and don’t brag. Tips Sometimes you have to slow down. You don’t want to look scary cool when you’re interviewing for a job or asking someone out. Actually, inner tenderness is part of the cool guy’s image.
Even Batman, deep down, is vulnerable. Learn to avoid confrontations. If you find yourself in a situation where someone refuses to back down, you have to make a choice whether to back down or not. Sometimes, you can resolve a situation by talking or buying this man a beer. Refusing to back down can lead to a fight with unforeseen consequences. You must be able to fight, but you must also use this skill wisely. You will inevitably encounter people who will challenge you. Learn to defuse the situation or be prepared to stand up for yourself. There’s nothing cool about fighting if you know the outcome from the beginning. Coolness attracts unwanted attention. You’ll be interested in law enforcement. Be nice to them. Choose your enemies wisely. You can’t confront the whole world.