At one point in life there is confusion, dissatisfaction and total disappointment. Do you dislike the life that is going on around you and the direction of your movement? What is your purpose and vocation in life? Where do you go and whether you go there? How do you find the answers to what to do, what dreams to fight for and where do you want to go? If you have similar thoughts, you have come to your life at a crossroads, where you need to make the right decision. Do not have a mood at all and be in constant prostration.
Go quietly down the street and suddenly cry. Go into depression and hate everything around you. It can happen at 20, 30, 30, 40 and even 50 years old when you get into a stupor in life. You understand that you are not satisfied with life and do not like it at all. Why do you do what you do? What do you live for and why do you do it? Why are you unhappy most of the time? You do not need tests to find the meaning of life. Everything is on a very different plane of thought and action.
Don’t look for your destiny in life Sometimes we do endless self-examination, searching for the right path in life or an unattainable ideal. We get entangled in desires, meaningless introspection, negative experiences, missed opportunities and wasted time. But the more you chase something, the more it is unattainable and unfeasible. Often we make a goal our dream and even life’s destination. But the dream is unattainable, unrealistic and impracticable. It is difficult to achieve the life you dreamed or watched in a Hollywood movie. As a result, you lose your motivation, desire to fight and give up. Soviet actress Faina Ranevskaya spoke: “Everything will come true, if you only want to”. Do not look for your goal in life, forget about ridiculous dreams and do not look for your destination. There is no only one right way where you will be happy. You can be happy in any place and at any time. You can make no mistakes and only do the right thing, but you can also be unhappy. You can do everything right, but still not feel the harmony and not enjoy life. Self-satisfaction from finding your only calling and destination is a myth. Destination is an unattainable ideal that we have invented for ourselves. There is no need to give up anything, to do superhuman effort or to choose a certain path. Do not look for your destiny in life, but let it go. The more you chase your destiny, your ideal and your dream, the further they become from you. The Austrian psychiatrist and psychologist Victor Emil Frankl said: “Happiness is like a butterfly. The more you catch it, the more it slips away. But if you shift your attention to other things, it will come and sit quietly on your shoulder. Let go of the situation and do not try to control everything, and then see what happens.
Live every day and take action How do you find your calling in life that seems elusive? There’s no point in pretending to be happy with everything when it’s not. Be unhappy and inquisitive, but active. Being honest with yourself allows you to fight for your future when you are moving forward, not trying to accept what is happening. We want to find our purpose in life, and then start doing something for which we can do. But the destination is not the goal, but the road and the movement itself. Start doing something fun, not doing endless self digging and not content with what is available. We put everything off for the rest of our lives. Here comes the weekend, the long-awaited vacation, promotion, lucky moment and the desired pension. If there is a good situation and ideal conditions, then I will do it. Wait. Saving everything for later is the most terrible habit called prokrastination. Putting aside even important and necessary things for later you will never be happy. We keep pushing back our plans and do nothing more. Will you ever do it later? Will you do everything and get there as soon as all the stars come together? It doesn’t happen like that. The more you stand still, the more you grow roots in a life that you’re not satisfied with. You grow into a swamp, which gradually absorbs you. Do not put off for tomorrow what you can do today. Start doing something fun, important and necessary today. Tomorrow does not exist, but today is every day. Start doing something interesting, unusual, exciting and curious every day. It does not matter at all what it will be. It is important to shake yourself up by motivating yourself to move at least minimally.
Find new hobbies and interests The call in life does not have to be connected with a hobby or hobbies. But the search for your desires should begin with this. What do you like to do? What do you want to do? What is the soul to do? Can it work as someone else? Maybe to have another hobby? Maybe try something new and unusual? Get rid of tunnel thinking and vision of life. Stop thinking and acting with templates that only limit your potential. Expand your range of interests, hobbies, hobbies. Try everything that seems to be potentially interesting. Often we rashly mark things that turn out to please us later. Don’t be afraid to try something you haven’t looked at yet. Spend six months or a year on research. It will be an interesting way to meet new people, new hobbies, new professions, new opportunities. Expand your areas and circles of knowledge. This method will help you get out of narrow thinking and vision of life situation. This method will develop a broader view of life. You will be like a cosmopolitan who sees the world from above.
Find Your Life Destination How do I find my life’s vocation and purpose? You don’t need to set a single goal in life, but rather find numerous ways to more fully realize yourself. Take a sheet and write down all the things you want to do in life and what to do. Let it be a list of 20 or 100 items. Sign your life the way you imagine it. What are your real interests? What do you want to do now? What are you most interested in? What hobbies make you happy? Where do you want to be in 5 or 10 years? What kind of goals do you have in mind? What does your life plan look like? What kind of dreams do you have? Look through the list and then prioritize all your dreams. Draw a wish map with all your puzzles that make up your life purpose and your desired dreams. Sometimes dreams seem impossible and complicated, but that’s okay. It is important to go on the road, and the opportunities will appear at the next turn of fate. The main thing is to get into a fight, and you will see there.
Go to the zone of uncertainty Have you found your destination, determined the direction, and then act? But this is not the case in life. Life’s self-realization is not a straight line, but an unknown curve with many branches. The comfort zone is where we have spent the last years. Here it is usual, comfortable, but dreary. Your task is to get together and leave the comfort zone to the zone of uncertainty. It is scary, unfamiliar and a little dangerous. But it is interesting, exciting, exciting and unforgettable. Go to the zone of uncertainty. There you will have to get used to the fact that the state of uncertainty is not only scary, but also promising.
Get rid of excess Going a long way, which is unknown, but this is the beauty? How do you find your calling in life? Move forward, throwing away everything that interferes. Often we are deprived of opportunities not by difficulties, but by habits, comfort, relatives and friends. Not our enemies are the most dangerous, but the most dangerous ones who are closest to us. Get rid of your friends who are pulling you back. Get rid of toxic people who put sticks in the wheels and do not want to see your victories. You will feel how easy it is to breathe and move without people who are pulling you to the bottom. Get rid of the unnecessary, empty, insignificant and holding. Home invasion, unnecessary things, excess items and consumerism. Clean everything superfluous from your desk and throw all unnecessary things into the attic. The house will be freer, cleaner and more spacious. Asceticism is better than excess, which brings only the dependence on things. It is like artists, poets, writers, directors and actors who create the poor best. Asceticism allows you to remove excess when nothing prevents you to look forward. Free up space around you for more freedom.
Find like-minded and close people The world is big, and in a good company any road on the shoulder. Look for like-minded people, friends and people with whom you are good. Look for those who support you, burn with similar ideas and strive for more. Find your favorite other half, with whom you will be good in all senses of the word. Gather your loved ones in pieces. Look for them in new places where you have never been. Make people your friends and make an effort to maintain relationships. Friendship and love take time. Do not be afraid to spend time calling, writing, or meeting people. If you don’t make an effort, the friendship or relationship may fade. But even if you do everything right, friends or the other half can leave. It’s not a big deal. There are many people in the world who will gladly keep you company in camaraderie, friendship or relationship. These people are also looking for, suffering and fighting. The main thing is not to give up. After all, if you give up, you lose. Continue the game so that it does not happen around you. Play so that people admire your firmness, strength and tenacity. Look for love and friendship.
Become happy every day Chasing your life purpose and trying to realize yourself, we miss happiness. Learn to enjoy not only the result, but also the actions themselves. It is important not so much to get to an unknown point called “vocation in life” as to the life path itself. Enjoy the road, movement, development, acquaintance with other travelers, beautiful views, met places, new impressions, interesting adventures, passes, overcome difficulties, gained victories and a pleasant walk. Life is a road to a distant home, where you move every day. Surround yourself with a tabor of close people and move together. All life is a nomad’s way to the sunrise. You are approaching the horizon, and it keeps moving backwards. But this is the moment when you are happy.
How do I find my calling in life? Be happy every day, no matter where you go. You don’t need the meaning of life, the vocation and the destination. You need happiness, which can only be found in a continuous movement.