People with charisma have the ability to almost hypnotically influence those around them. Not everyone is naturally endowed with this quality, but you can successfully develop it in yourself by using some tips and tricks
All of us have met in our lives people in whose company we wanted to stay longer. People with charisma have the ability to almost hypnotically influence those around them. This quality is not all endowed by nature, but it can be successfully developed in yourself, using some tips and tricks.
So, what do you need to do to make people gravitate to you?
- Believe in Yourself
A “healthy” confidence in yourself and your abilities is one of the most important criteria for a person’s magnetism. People who believe in themselves make those around them believe in themselves as well. You can raise self-esteem through positive self-hypnosis – daily write down your achievements and successes – from “I helped my grandmother cross the street” to “I became the head of the company. Physical exercises that will transform your body for the better help you gain self-confidence. It is also worth working on your style – update your closet, change your haircut, grow/shave a beard and change the things in your appearance that you have long wanted to change.
- Build trust
“The art of intimacy” in dealing with people is a very important point in developing charisma. It means letting the person you are talking to believe that all your attention is focused on him. At the same time make him feel confident around you. True charisma is addressed outward, to the world, not inward to your personality. After all, who wouldn’t enjoy being listened to and understood? Being a good conversationalist is what always disposes people.
- Learn to communicate
A good conversationalist is always tactful, doesn’t want to embarrass people, uses a sense of humor and appropriate quotes. It is not unreasonable to read books by famous speakers and successful people. The experiences shared by these people will help you in building a dialogue with your interlocutor. The bestselling author of “Say No First” and “No. The best negotiating strategy” emphasizes how important it is to ask the right questions to achieve the desired result in the negotiations. So, always have a couple of questions at the ready.
- Build eye contact
The power of the gaze should not be underestimated. Ralph Emerson, the American poet and philosopher, said: “The human gaze can be as threatening as a loaded and aimed gun, a look can hurt as a spit or blow, but it can also radiate kindness, and make the heart dance with joy. So it is, sometimes one look makes you feel uncomfortable, and some people are able to disarm with one look. While others are afraid of eye contact and look fluently, casually and uncertainly. Charismatic people often have a kind, positive and at the same time confident and clear look. They look directly into the eyes of the interlocutor. And such a technique really works!
- Use your body to express emotion
Gesticulation, clear facial expressions, a smile, animation – these are the things that attract attention and dispose people. Nodding during conversation is another method – it shows that you’re listening to the person you’re talking to and encouraging him. The main thing is not to overdo with the approving reaction, so as not to create the impression of being too much.
These simple tips will help to attract people. And, of course, you can’t do without the inner filling – attend various trainings, read books, biographies of successful people, learn foreign languages and develop a sense of humor.