How to understand that your wife is cheating on you?
Cheating is bitter, hurtful and painful. Many believe that infidelity is the prerogative of men. But in fact, wives can cheat, too. And why do they do that? And how do you know that a spouse is unfaithful?
A little bit of statistics
If we believe the statistics, from 21 to 50% of women have changed their second half at least once. That is, it turns out that in the best case scenario every fifth representative of the weakest half of humanity had a connection on the side.
Besides, it is noticed that every year the number of unfaithful wives increases and gradually approaches the number of unfaithful husbands, which, by the way, remains unchanged.
There’s one more fact. Thus, about 50% of women who have cheated on their spouses, break up relationships, ruin the marriage and often go to lovers. And among the strongest sex such “daredevils” only 5%, that is, men are not ready to change their family for a mistress, even if they have feelings for her.
The psychology of female treason
If for a man cheating is just satisfaction of his physiological needs and momentary weakness, it is much harder for a woman to dare, because for her sex is closely connected with feelings. In other words, women of the fair sex will certainly not cheat just because “it happened”. For them, cheating is a well-considered decision or even the beginning of a grandiose change.
Reasons for cheating
Why is a woman cheating on her husband? As noted above, wives never do it for nothing. It takes an excuse, and sometimes it’s very serious and strong.
So, the main reasons a woman cheats:
Lack of attention from the husband. Yes, if a woman experiences a lack of attention, which is so important literally for all the representatives of the beautiful half of humanity, she will look for it on the side. And if the one from whom she gets it will be a skilful seducer, the lady will surely be in his bed and will justify herself by the fact that her husband is guilty of it.
Prolonged absence of a spouse. Love at a distance is incredibly difficult, so not everyone can stand the challenge. We want a man to be there for us, to support us, and, in the end, to satisfy quite natural sexual needs. If that’s not possible, the spouse can find a replacement for the husband.
Revenge. This reason may seem trivial and stupid, but in fact, many women decide to cheat only because they have survived betrayal by the spouse. So if a man has cheated, it is possible that soon he will find out about the cheating wife. And a woman will justify her act by being unfaithful to the other half.
Dissatisfaction with sexual life is also one of the most common reasons, because if a woman does not get what she wants from her husband, she will try to find it in the bed of another man, that is, a lover. And although men think that sex is not so important for the fairer sex, it is absolutely not. Women also have needs, fantasies and desires that they dream of fulfilling.
Love for another man. If a spouse has loved someone for a long time, and the feelings were very strong, then they may well flare up again, and with new strength. And in this case, treason may well happen, because, as you know, women are closely linked intimate life and feelings.
Lack of feelings for their spouse. If a woman is near him just to save the family, she still wants passion, tenderness, bright feelings, emotions, glitter in the eyes, kisses under the moon and other female joys. And all that she can start looking for on the side.
How do you find out if the problems have started?
Is there any way to find out or understand that the spouse is unfaithful? You can, but not always. Some women are so cold-blooded and cunning that they can hide the fact of their infidelity all their lives, especially if the cheating was isolated, that is, there was no constant connection. If the wife began a new relationship on the side, it is quite possible to determine this.
Signs of female infidelity:
The wife became silent and withdrawn. Such changes may indicate that the woman is very sorry for his act, her conscience is tormented and tormented. So if she is no longer interested in her husband’s life and talks about hers, and avoids frank conversations, it may indicate that she is unfaithful.
Changes in appearance. If a spouse has updated her wardrobe, changed her image, signed up at the gym, bought new cosmetics and, in general, began to actively monitor herself for no reason, it may be a sign of her infidelity. But still, such changes do not always talk about cheating. Probably, the wife just decided to get your attention or wanted to change her life and make it brighter.
The woman has new things. And that should be especially worrying if she hasn’t bought much of herself before. The wife can say that she bought everything herself, but in this case, you can ask to show the check or tell us which store was making purchases. If the answer does not follow, or it will be unreasonable, then all the gifts she probably received from some man.
Changes in intimate life, and the most different. So, the wife can cool down and stop showing initiative in bed. But sometimes everything happens to the exact opposite, so that if the good, on the contrary, began to suddenly diversify the sexual life and behave differently or became more sensual and passionate, all this can be a consequence of relationships on the side.
Frequent absence for no reason. If a woman suddenly stays at work a lot, goes out with new friends or acquaintances, or, for example, goes to a club, it may also indicate that she is spending all this time with a lover. And to make sure of this, you can call work or suddenly go to a meeting or activity at the club with your wife (or better yet offer her a ride).
Restrictions on personal space. If the wife suddenly started closing pages on social networks, changed passwords, stopped allowing her phone or tablet, and the lists of messages and calls are empty, then she is likely to tear something down carefully.
Changes in behavior. For example, the spouse may have become colder or, conversely, more gentle, more sympathetic and affectionate. In the first case, everything is explained by a lack of interest in the spouse. But the external well-being can say that the woman is experiencing, feels guilty and wants to show in every way that still loves her husband.
What can we do?
How to behave if you find out that your wife is cheating? First of all, to talk. Tell her you know everything, and there’s no point in hiding something. Find out what’s causing the infidelity. Ask if the lover’s wife loves the lover, if she feels the same way about you. Ask what the woman plans to do next, what her life is like.
If a spouse still loves you, repents of what she has done and wants to keep the marriage going, you will have to decide if you can forgive and forget the treason and continue the relationship. If not, there is no point in keeping the family, and nothing good will come of it anyway. If you are ready to forget everything, then try to start life from scratch, not to remember what happened and make a promise to be faithful with your beloved.